Need a place to talk about drug use? Are you looking for support and ways to have fun without using drugs? We welcome every teen to join us weekly for conversation, education and support regarding drugs of abuse. This is a “no judgment zone” and a safe environment geared towards real talk with real people. For more info click here.
March’s Parenting Workshop will focus on substances of abuse and how they affect teen brain development.
Presentation Led by Lindsey Millenbaugh, LPC
Lindsey is a Licensed Professional Counselor with over ten years experience working with adolescents and young adults struggling with substance use disorders.
RSVP is not required, however, much appreciated. 602.997.2880
February’s Parenting workshop is a deeper look into Mindfulness and other skills of Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT). We will explore skills to help you as parents in Emotional Regulation, Distress Tolerance, and Effective Interpersonal Relationships. Come learn what we’re teaching kids at Doorways so you can use these “de-stressors” to help yourself live well in 2020!
Presentation Led by Marian Humphries, LPC
Marian is a Licensed Professional Counselor. Marian is involved in Doorways DBT Skills IOP where she teaches skills to teens in a creative and effective manner. She will lead you in learning strategies to reduce anxiety, gain control of your emotions, improve sleep, learn breathing techniques and self-regulation skills. These can benefit you, and you can teach them to your teen!
RSVP is not required, however, much appreciated! 602.997.2880
“Help! My teen is stressed, anxious and/or showing OCD tendencies.”
Anxiety disorders are the most common mental health disorders of adolescence. Different kinds of anxiety affect young people at different times in development.
- Nearly one in three adolescents (31.9%) will meet criteria for an anxiety disorder by the age of 18.
Join us on December 9th at 5:30pm at Doorways to learn more about tools and strategies to support your teen during this time in their life. The one hour workshop will be led by Megan Schwallie, MSW, LCSW, Licensed Clinical Social Worker. She specializes in treating OCD and anxiety disorders as well as frequently co-occurring conditions such as Body Focused Repetitive Behaviors, Tourette Syndrome, and other tic disorders. Megan received her Masters in Social Work from the School of Social Service Administration at the University of Chicago in 2009. She has completed substantial post-graduate training in her areas of expertise with the International OCD Foundation, the Trichotillomania Learning Center, and the Tourette Association of America.
September’s Parenting Workshop will educate parents about Mindfulness. By focusing our attention on the present moment, mindfulness counteracts rumination and worrying…Research has shown that mindfulness helps us reduce anxiety and depression and it enables us to distance ourselves from our thoughts and feelings, with out labeling them as good or bad.
Presentation Led by Marian Humphries, LPC
Marian is a Licensed Professional Counselor. Marian is involved in Doorways DBT Skills IOP where she teaches skills to teens in a creative and effective manner. She will lead you in learning strategies to reduce anxiety, gain control of your emotions, improve sleep, learn breathing techniques and self regulation skills. These can benefit you, and you can teach them to your teen!
RSVP is not required, however, much appreciated! 602.997.2880 https://www.facebook.com/events/364594391107593/
June 3rd, 5:30pm @ Doorways
Presentation Led by Jan Hamilton, MS, PMHNP-BC, CEDS
Jan is a Psychiatric Nurse Practitioner specializing in Adolescent and Young Adult psychiatric care, founder of Doorways, committed to adolescents and family health.
The June parenting workshop will educate parent about brain development by discussing what’s “normal” and what could indicate a mental health issue that needs treatment with counseling or medication.
May 6th – 5:30pm-6:30pm at Doorways
What is the balance between feeding our kids “healthy” choices and teaching them it’s okay to enjoy foods with less nutritional density?
Orthorexia is the term used to define the obsession with healthy eating. Come discuss ways to encourage your kids to make good choices without creating food rules that can lead to a harmful preoccupation with food”.
Led by Bethany Dario, MPH, RDN, Registered Dietitian
Bethany Dario is a Registered Dietitian who graduated from Bluffton University majoring in Food and Nutrition with a concentration in Dietetics. She completed a clinical internship with The Cleveland Clinic and completed a Master of Public Health at Grand Canyon University. She has had specialized training in eating disorders and has treated anorexia, bulimia and binge eating disorder in both inpatient and outpatient settings. Bethany has lead body image groups for the department of Psychology and sororities within Greek Life at The University of Texas at Austin.
To fail at a task or goal is one thing. Fearing or anticipating failure without even trying is another ball game altogether.
The fear of failure can be crippling, and it can prevent a person from reaching their full potential. The reason adolescents develop a fear of failure often stems from unrealistic pressure to win and succeed.
Now, this pressure could be from parents, teachers, peers, or friends. Or it could be self-directed, especially if they associate success as crucial for acceptance by parents/family/teachers or within their immediate social groups.
Some adolescents can channel failure into improvement, while others take failures to heart and develop crippling fears. In extreme cases, they may even develop a mental disorder such as depression or anxiety.
As parents, you can do a lot to help your child develop a healthy attitude towards failure and help them overcome the anxiety and apprehensions that comes from a fear of failure.
Associate Success with Effort Instead of the End Results
Every parent wants their child to succeed. However, it is important for teens to know and understand that the effort they put in is as much a part of the success formula as is the end result.
Don’t just praise your child for getting a high score on a test or for hitting a home run; make it a point to praise their study habits and their commitment to batting practice, too.
The next time your child scores an “A” on that math test, instead of saying “I am so proud you got an A,” you could try saying something like “I know how hard you worked for that test. All that hard work really paid off!”
It is crucial for your child to know that your appreciation and love is not linked to how well they perform at school or at a sport.
4 Steps to Help Your Teen Overcome Fear of Failing
- Talk to your teenage child about failure and discuss how they feel; encourage them to openly talk about the emotions associated with failures such as anger or embarrassment. It is important for them to talk about how they feel instead of bottling their emotions.
- Cite personal stories of famous personalities who fought through their failures and succeeded in their lives instead of giving up.
- If you have a personal story about overcoming failure in your own life, share that with your child so they understand how failure can be a good teacher or present them with opportunities to succeed.
- If your child is struggling with school or club activities, encourage them to ask for help and work with them to find a solution to the problem instead of avoiding or ignoring it.
Seeking Professional Help
The fear of failure is something that even adults experience. The brain of an adolescent is still developing which means they are unable to process a lot of emotions associated with failure which include embarrassment, anxiety, or anger and logically work through their difficulties.
This is when your support and understanding can enable your child to not only correctly process the fear of failure and its associated emotions, but to overcome their fears.
However, if you find it difficult to communicate with your child, consulting with a professional counselor might help. It becomes absolutely necessary to consult with a professional counselor if mental health conditions such as depression or anxiety are triggering the fear of failure in your teenager.
In addition, the fear of failure could lead to depression or other mental conditions and even drive your adolescent towards addictions and substance abuse or destructive behavior.
Professional counseling can help identify the triggers for your child’s fear of failure. Once the cause is known, professional counselors can then work out a plan for addressing these factors and help your adolescent overcome their fears.
Professional Counseling with Doorways
If your teen or someone you know is struggling with a fear of failure and you feel they need professional help, we are here. Please feel free to connect with us at Doorways or give us a call at 602-997-2880.
Self-esteem and body image issues can be a very difficult part of adolescence and young adulthood. Each generation has its own idea of “perfection” perpetuated through media, peer pressure, and societal prejudices, all have which take strong roots in our thinking.
Any kind of negative imaging in the formative years can lead to teens picking up a distorted view of what constitutes the “right” body image and self-concept.
Understanding Self-Esteem and Body Image
Body image is how one perceives oneself physically. Self-esteem on the other hand takes on a more holistic view of how one values and respects oneself as a person. Body image and self-esteem are closely linked in the sense that they have a spill-over effect on each other.
A positive body image allows you to appreciate your individual qualities and strengths both on the inside and the outside.
When you feel good inside and out, it has a positive influence on other areas of your life – you feel good about your life, the people in it, the work you do, and your accomplishments. Each of these in turn drive you towards a more positive future.
This is what a positive self-esteem constitutes – a qualitative and a quantitative appreciation of oneself.
In this context, consider the following statistics:
- More than 50% of teenage girls and 30% of teenage boys turn to unhealthy eating habits and addictions as a means of controlling their body weight.
- Among middle school and high school boys, more than 40% take to exercise with the primary goal of enhancing muscle mass in order to project a more “perfect” body.
- 61% of girls struggling with low self-esteem issues are more prone to talk about their body negatively.
According to the National Institute of Health, unhealthy eating habits and addictions can lead to both health risks and mental disorders or conditions such as depression. Establishing these habits at a young age can result in a teen who continues presenting with these habits even into their adulthood.
Therefore, it is so important for parents to help their teens and young adults develop a healthy body image and positive self-esteem.
Concrete Steps You Can Take as Parents
Start by trying to understand what your teenager feels about their own body image. The following questions can help you understand what they are thinking;
- What qualities do they like about their body?
- Are they happy with their physical appearance (weight, height, features)?
- Is there a specific celebrity or public personality with a body type they like?
- Is there any part of their body they would want to change or replace?
Additionally, work on your own values about your body and the messages you give to your kids about health and body image:
Give Prominence to Human Values Over Physical Appearance
- Focus on qualities of kindness, helping others, and honesty over physical attributes or appearances.
- Don’t criticize your teen or young adult over their physical appearance; work with them to pick up healthy eating habits, good sleeping habits, and to exercise appropirately.
- Appreciate any efforts they make in this regard.
Lead by Example
- If you have a negative body image or have self-esteem issues, your kids will notice.
- If you tend to obsess over food, appearance, and weight they will pick up on those habits.
- When you speak negatively about others’ appearance, they will feel encouraged to do the same.
Help Your Teen Overcome Negative Perceptions About Their Body
- Talk to your teen about appreciating their body and their physical and emotional strengths.
- You can help highlight a strength to counter any negative feelings they have about a specific body part.
- Impress upon them that even celebrities and public figures must deal with imperfections; the images they see on the Internet, TV, and social media are often airbrushed or manipulated.
- Talk to them about how marvelous the human body is in terms of what it can achieve, and that everyday life is not so much about how one looks, but about what one does.
- Talk to them about people who have overcome physical, emotional, gender, and community biases to achieve greatness in their lives; this can help them understand the above-mentioned point of focusing on achievements and everyday actions.
- Listen to your teen when they speak; if they know you are paying attention and care about their feelings, they will feel encouraged to open up about struggles.
Poor Self-esteem and Negative Body Image Issues – How Doorways Can Help Your Teen
If your teen is struggling with poor body image or low self-esteem, there is every chance they can fall into the trap of unhealthy lifestyle choices, including bad dietary habits and addictions. Assistance by way of behavioral, family, group counseling, and psychiatric intervention can help your teen learn to respect, feed, and appreciate their body.
When your child is diagnosed with an eating disorder, your natural inclination is towards more information. You want to know: How long? Why is this happening? When will it stop? What can I do? But these answers, frustratingly, may be slow to surface. You want to understand what your teen is experiencing to offer the necessary support for their improvement. Yet, they may hold feelings and experiences close to their chest like cards in a game of poker.
Perhaps you’re aware how complicated and bewildering eating disorders are. Perhaps the symptoms of bulimia or anorexia have been plaguing your child for years, and now, along with an official diagnosis, you are feeling pangs of frustration and guilt. Maybe you’re angry or scared. These emotions are ALL completely natural responses. It’s hard and often scary to see someone you love suffering. Their journey to recovery will not be an easy process, and as you walk alongside them in this journey, neither will yours.
“Transformation is a process, and as life happens there are tons of ups and downs. It’s a journey of discovery – there are moments on mountaintops and moments in deep valleys of despair.”
— Rick Warren
So what can you do? How can you support and walk alongside your teenage child in this difficult time?
1. Educate yourself.
The first step you can take is to learn as much as you can about eating disorders. Remember that natural inclination towards more information? Use it. By educating yourself with facts, first-hand accounts, and helpful tips you’ll start to feel a weight lift as your fears begin to diminish. Much of your anxiety is probably a result of the not knowing. So learn what you can so that you do know.
2. Get help from professionals.
You don’t have to travel this road alone. According to the National Eating Disorder Association (NEDA), professional treatment can reduce the chance of significant psychological and health ramifications. Simply put, identifying and treating an eating disorder as soon as possible can save lives. Professional intervention can help you both understand the disorder and why it exists. Doorways offers outpatient treatment in Phoenix, Arizona for teens and young adults (13-25) with eating disorders, as well as family counseling. If your teen or young adult is struggling with an eating disorder, contact us for a free consultation. 602-997-2880.
3. Don’t over-simplify.
The solution may seem simple to your non-disordered brain. “Just eat.” However, this advice isn’t helpful and only serves to isolate your loved one further. Instead of oversimplifying, use meaningful communication to express your concern and your willingness to see the situation from their eyes. In fact, voicing your own mistakes or weaknesses will go a long ways in allowing your child to feel comfortable in doing the same.
4. It’s not your fault.
Finally, an eating disorder isn’t caused by a single factor. They are incredibly complex. So, this eating disorder isn’t your fault. We’ll say it again. This is not your fault. Your shortcomings as a parent didn’t produce an eating disorder. But we understand you may be feeling like they did. However, we encourage you to set these feelings aside and focus on presence. Stay involved. And continue to walk alongside your loved one through this deep valley…helping them to reach a new mountaintop.